Ep. 1 | The Power of Female Mentorship: A New Podcast for Moms
The central theme of our inaugural podcast episode is the exploration of mentorship among women, particularly in the context of motherhood. We, the hosts, Megan and Nikki, share our personal journeys and the motivation behind launching this podcast, which has been a long-held aspiration of ours. The discussion highlights the importance of sharing wisdom between women of varying experiences—those who are navigating similar life stages and those who have traversed further along the path. Throughout our dialogue, we emphasize our commitment to providing relatable insights and guidance, despite acknowledging that we may not possess formal qualifications as experts. Ultimately, our aim is to foster a supportive community where we can exchange valuable advice, thereby enriching our collective experiences as mothers.
The inaugural episode of the Wise Her podcast serves as a profound introduction to the mission and vision behind the series. Megan and Nikki, the hosts, embark on a reflective journey, sharing the genesis of their idea to create a platform dedicated to the mentorship of women, particularly in the realm of motherhood. Their conversation reveals the organic evolution of the podcast—born out of years of discussions and a shared desire to provide support and guidance to fellow mothers navigating the complexities of parenting. Megan recounts her long-held belief in the significance of mentorship and the vital role that women play in each other's lives, emphasizing the importance of sharing wisdom across generational lines.
Throughout the episode, the hosts delve into the rich tapestry of their personal experiences, illustrating the challenges and triumphs that accompany motherhood. Megan articulates a heartfelt desire to foster a community where women can engage in open dialogues, share their stories, and learn from one another. They acknowledge the diverse experiences of motherhood, recognizing that every woman's journey is unique, yet interwoven with universal themes of love, uncertainty, and growth. This episode sets the stage for what listeners can expect in future installments: a space where vulnerability and authenticity pave the way for meaningful conversations that resonate with mothers from all walks of life.
As the discussion unfolds, the hosts highlight their intention to create a supportive environment that encourages mothers to seek advice, share their challenges, and celebrate their successes. The podcast aims to serve not only as a source of information but also as a comforting presence—a reminder that no mother is alone in her journey. Megan and Nikki's commitment to transparency and relatability fosters a sense of trust with their audience, inviting them to join in on the ongoing conversation. The episode concludes with an invitation to future discussions, where they will explore a variety of topics pertinent to motherhood, ensuring that the Wise Her podcast evolves into a cherished resource for mothers seeking connection and wisdom.
Transcript
Hello, and welcome to the Wise, her podcast, where we might not be qualified, but we are commanded to give you advice.
Speaker A:So welcome to episode one.
Speaker A:I have my girl Nikki with me.
Speaker B:Hello.
Speaker A:And my name is Megan.
Speaker A:I will be your host.
Speaker A:And I can't believe we're actually doing this.
Speaker A:We're actually sitting in a room recording a podcast that we've been talking about for.
Speaker A:How many.
Speaker A:How long have you and I discussed this?
Speaker B:At least a couple of years.
Speaker A:At least two years we've talked about doing this.
Speaker A:I feel like every time we talk on the phone, we end the conversation.
Speaker A:Like, man, that would have been a really good podcast episode.
Speaker A:And the original idea was birthed pre pandemic so close to five years ago with two other gals that you, as our listeners, will get to hear from a little bit later, Ren and Stacy.
Speaker A:And it kind of started.
Speaker A:We were sitting down, having a just normal conversation, and Ren was asking all kinds of great questions about motherhood.
Speaker A:And my kids are this age.
Speaker A:What do I do when they're this age?
Speaker A:Or how did you handle this situation?
Speaker A:And we just had this great organic conversation.
Speaker A:And at the end of it, Ren was like, this could be a podcast.
Speaker A:And we kind of laughed it off.
Speaker A:And then I got back in my car and was driving home, and I was like, wait a minute.
Speaker A:That actually could be a good podcast.
Speaker A:So the Lord had put on my heart, I mean, at least a decade ago, over a decade ago, just this concept of mentorship and having a woman in your life that's ahead of you a few seasons that you're kind of chasing after, like, chasing after her wisdom, and then you also have some women behind you a couple of seasons that you're able to also give information to.
Speaker A:So it's just this.
Speaker A:This flow of information.
Speaker A:So you're living your life, gaining wisdom through your experiences, and then you're also gaining wisdom from women ahead of you in life, but you're also giving that information to somebody else, so you're not just holding on to it.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:And I've never.
Speaker A:I didn't know when the Lord put that on my heart, what it was going to look like.
Speaker A:I had no idea what the idea of a mentorship program would look like, or how do you authentically go to someone and be like, I'd like to be your mentor, like, with it.
Speaker A:With it being a normal thing.
Speaker A:And so on that drive home, I just thought, well, maybe this is kind of what the Lord's had this on my heart for, is just the concept of, like, a mentorship.
Speaker A:Maybe like the idea of a podcast being like a big sister in your pocket or something.
Speaker A:Just because I've been very blessed to have great women like you in my life and women in my life that I'm in the same season as, and women in my life that are ahead of me in seasons.
Speaker A:But not everybody has.
Speaker A:Not everybody has a Nicky.
Speaker A:And I want everyone to have a Nicky.
Speaker B:Aw.
Speaker B:Because.
Speaker A:So, a little bit about my daughters.
Speaker A:Well, I've been married to my husband for.
Speaker A:It'll be 20 years in May, and I've got two teenage daughters.
Speaker A:That's so crazy to say.
Speaker A:My youngest daughter is actually turning 13 this March.
Speaker A: March of: Speaker A:And then my oldest daughter is 14.
Speaker A:And so with me having two teenage daughters, Nikki, and she'll introduce her family in a little bit, has sons older than mine.
Speaker A:Let's see, your youngest son is how old?
Speaker A:16.
Speaker A:16.
Speaker A:So anytime I've encountered something in my life with my daughters where I've not really known, okay, how do I handle this?
Speaker A:Or if I let them do this, what is this next stage gonna look like?
Speaker A:So Nikki has always been my God, go to person.
Speaker A:Because I've witnessed how her boys have turned out.
Speaker A:Like, I've watched you parent.
Speaker A:I've heard conversations that you've had with your sons.
Speaker A:I've heard you and your husband talking about how you've handled situations.
Speaker A:And I've witnessed with my eyes the fruit of how amazing your sons have turned out and are turning out.
Speaker A:And so I trust your guidance.
Speaker A:And like I said before, I'm super blessed to have a great village of women that I parent alongside of.
Speaker A:But we're all in the trenches together, so it's nice to have someone that can peek their head out, you know, be like, here's what's coming up ahead, you know?
Speaker A:And so that's kind of what I want for this podcast, is even if we can just give moms women a heads up, like, hey, if you're in this season of life, this is what's going to be coming down the pike.
Speaker A:And so.
Speaker B:And everybody's experiences are different.
Speaker B:Yes, completely.
Speaker B:No matter if they're behind you or ahead of you.
Speaker B:Yes, they're completely different.
Speaker B:So you can only go off of what you have personally experienced.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:And how you handled that particular situation, whether it's right or wrong in someone else's eyes, you can still, you know, go, well, this is what we experienced, and this is how we handled that.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker A:So, yeah, so that's just my hope for the podcast, and it Also, where the tagline of we're not qualified, but we're committed comes from is from we're committed in Scripture as older women to teach the younger women how to be wives and mothers.
Speaker A:So we might not be qualified by the world standards to give advice because we're not marriage counselors.
Speaker A:Actually, one of us, Stacy, is, I would say, the only one that would have world, maybe not even world paper qualifications, the certifications that she needs.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:She is a certified biblical counselor.
Speaker A:So she's the only one that has paper.
Speaker A:But the rest of us, we're not doing this because we're like, oh, we're so wise, or, oh, we've got it figured out.
Speaker A:Like, we.
Speaker B:Not at all.
Speaker A:We've cracked the code to how to be an amazing wife and mom.
Speaker B:No, not at all.
Speaker A:That will be the disclaimer from here on out.
Speaker A:We are not trying to say that we've figured anything out or that we're the pros of anything.
Speaker A:Like you said, we're just sharing our personal experiences that could maybe help others.
Speaker A:Exactly.
Speaker A:And that's what we're commanded to do in scripture.
Speaker A:So our next episode, we will have the privilege of hearing from another great woman who's had an impact in my life since I was.
Speaker A:I mean, since I was a child.
Speaker A:She's impacted me through my teenage years through becoming a wife and a mother.
Speaker A:And so we're going to be able to hear from her in the next episode.
Speaker A:She's going to dive more into what that command looks like and why it's important and kind of lay the foundation of why this.
Speaker A:Why this.
Speaker A:While we're doing this podcast, while this is important.
Speaker A:So a little bit more about myself.
Speaker A:My husband and I met when I like to say that he was.
Speaker A:That he was my youth leader, but he likes to say, no, he was helping out in the youth.
Speaker A:And I guess on record, that actually sounds a little bit better when you say it like that, because when we met, I was 17 and he was 27.
Speaker A:Of course, we did not start dating till I was 18.
Speaker A:I guess I'll.
Speaker A:I'll have that for the record.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker A:But we met through church.
Speaker A:He was.
Speaker A:He started coming to our church, was friends with the couple that was my actual youth leaders and was kind of going through a pastoral intern program under one of our senior pastors at our church at the time and was helping out, doing worship in the youth.
Speaker A:And that's how we originally met.
Speaker A:And I did pursue him, bless his heart.
Speaker A:He was.
Speaker A:He was clueless that I was going around telling everybody I met the man I was gonna marry.
Speaker A:It could have gotten him in a lot of trouble.
Speaker A:Actually, we did kind of get.
Speaker A:Well, I don't wanna say we got in trouble, but it was a little scandalous at first.
Speaker A:Like, once I turned 18, we started dating.
Speaker A:He was still, like, kind of helping out in the youth.
Speaker A:I was in high school.
Speaker A:Our.
Speaker A:Our senior pastor did not like that very much.
Speaker A:And actually, it's his wife who's going to be that can.
Speaker B:That came full circle.
Speaker B:That.
Speaker A:It does come full circle.
Speaker A:And that's why she's.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:So she knows all the things.
Speaker A:She's.
Speaker A:She's been.
Speaker A:Been there for me through all the things.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker A:And it's interesting that that pastor.
Speaker A:Pastor Tim ended up did mar.
Speaker A:He was the one who married us.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:And of course, we get to see him now with our daughters, and he is our youngest daughter's, like, favorite Bible teacher that we have here.
Speaker A:So it really has come full circle.
Speaker A:Even though it may have been a little bit of a scandalous in the beginning, a little rocky start in the beginning, it has all come full circle.
Speaker A:And we'll be married 20 years in May, which, wow, seems unreal.
Speaker A:I remember being in high school and people being married, like, 10, 15 years, and you're thinking, oh, my gosh.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:What would that be like to be married that long?
Speaker A:I can't even imagine.
Speaker A:And I'm that person now.
Speaker A:I'll be turning 40 in November, so maybe I've reached a point where I could give younger girls advice.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker B:Of course.
Speaker A:And like I said, We've got two daughters that are 13 and 14.
Speaker A:My oldest will turn 15 in October.
Speaker A:So I guess what we're going to be doing.
Speaker A:Learner's permits.
Speaker A:Yep, we're going to be.
Speaker B:That's what's ahead.
Speaker A:Start.
Speaker B:That's the next step.
Speaker A:Start doing driving.
Speaker A:So all the things with teenage daughters.
Speaker A:Yeah, we're.
Speaker A:I got you.
Speaker A:I got you on that.
Speaker B:We can.
Speaker A:We can talk a lot about that.
Speaker A:And they are in public school.
Speaker A:We did homeschool for seven years, and I put them in public school smack dab in the middle of the pandemic, which that will be.
Speaker A:That'll be a story for a different time.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:So that's a little bit about me.
Speaker A:And like I said with Nikki, she has been my go to.
Speaker A:So like I said, when it was just originally me and Ren and Stacy talking about a podcast, I was like, we have to have someone more ahead in life.
Speaker A:So between the four of us, between me and you and Ren and Stacy.
Speaker A:And we calculated the marriage between the four of us.
Speaker A:We have over 50 years of marriage.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:I can't remember the exact number.
Speaker B:It was right around there.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:And then between the four of us, we have kids ranging from 2 to 21.
Speaker A:Correct.
Speaker A:So between the four of us, we've got everything pretty much covered.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:So Nikki is our.
Speaker A:Well, you're our elder.
Speaker A:I told you that earlier.
Speaker B:Thanks.
Speaker A:She.
Speaker B:Nikki is.
Speaker A:Nikki is our elder.
Speaker A:Our elder voice.
Speaker B:I'm not that old.
Speaker A:No, you're not.
Speaker A:And.
Speaker A:But again, she's my go to when it comes to things I'm encountering with my daughters, and I just kind of need a heads up on.
Speaker A:So I'm gonna have Nikki share a little bit more about her so you can get to know her.
Speaker B:Well, hello.
Speaker B:My name is Nikki Polacek, and I have been married in July to my high school sweetheart.
Speaker A:Another high school high school sweetheart.
Speaker B:We've been married 23 years in July.
Speaker B:And then actually, we celebrate our dating anniversary when he first asked me out, which is Thursday the 3rd, March 13th.
Speaker A:Oh, like this coming up Thursday.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker B:Which would be 28 years.
Speaker A:Oh.
Speaker B:So we dated for five years before we got married.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker B:And so.
Speaker B:Because I was, you know, 18.
Speaker B:17.
Speaker B:18 when we started.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:But anyway, so we.
Speaker B:Yeah, we.
Speaker B:It's crazy because I just told my husband this morning.
Speaker B:I was like, we have been together more than half our life, which is crazy to me to think about.
Speaker B:Like, you know, I've lived more life.
Speaker B:More life with him than I have without him.
Speaker B:So, yeah, that was kind of crazy.
Speaker B:And he just laughs and, like, I just choose you every day.
Speaker A:Oh, that's so sweet.
Speaker A:I can totally hear him saying that.
Speaker B:And so we had.
Speaker B:We have three sons.
Speaker B:Three crazy boys.
Speaker B:My oldest is 21.
Speaker B:Um, my middle one is 17, and my baby is 16.
Speaker B:So we kind of have in the thick of the teenage years coming out of it, but we have experienced some life things with that age group.
Speaker B:So excited to kind of share what we've experienced and what we've gone through, which is not the same for everybody, but that's kind of where we are right now.
Speaker B:And every day is something different with those boys.
Speaker B:There's never a dull moment.
Speaker A:Well, and tell our listeners a little bit about what your boys do for their.
Speaker A:For their sports.
Speaker B:So when my oldest was in high school, he played football all four years, so that was a lot of fun to do the Friday night lights thing with him.
Speaker B:My boys have always been in some sort of Sport since they were 2, 2, 3 years old.
Speaker B:My middle one has done basketball, football.
Speaker B:But now he plays soccer and is a goalie for the high school.
Speaker B:He has been doing really well with that.
Speaker B:So he's kind of a natural at being a soccer goalie, which gives me a heart attack every game.
Speaker B:It's crazy.
Speaker B:Be a goalie mama.
Speaker B:So you goalie mamas out there, I hope you can feel my pain.
Speaker A:Oh, and I've seen pictures of him.
Speaker B:It's crazy.
Speaker A:Flying through the air.
Speaker B:Did you catch that ball?
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker B:And then my youngest has played.
Speaker B:His sport has always been soccer.
Speaker B:He's played since he was 2 and so it's kind of cool.
Speaker B:They both, my middle one and youngest one are actually on the varsity team at the high school.
Speaker B:So they get to.
Speaker B:They're doing that together, which is really awesome.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker B:So sweet.
Speaker A:Boy.
Speaker B:So we're busy a lot with sports on the go all the time.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:And you're just starting soccer, right?
Speaker A:Soccer school.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:So they do club in the like kind of in the end of summer fall.
Speaker B:So they do club ball and then they do high school.
Speaker B:So it's kind of a year round commitment.
Speaker A:But.
Speaker B:But they're getting older so they're thinking about different things and what they want to keep doing.
Speaker A:So.
Speaker B:So we'll see.
Speaker B:They're all working and just busy with school, work and you know, sports.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:And that would be maybe a piece of advice to a younger mom before you let your kids choose a sport.
Speaker A:Now I would say elementary school.
Speaker A:Let them do everything.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:Let them try everything.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:But before they really hone in on a sport, make sure you like watching it.
Speaker B:Well, I must say, I'm sorry to say.
Speaker B:Cause I know we live in an area where baseball is like very one of the top sports around.
Speaker B:And I just, I'm not, I'm not a baseball like person.
Speaker A:Same.
Speaker B:I would be that way if my kids did it.
Speaker B:Cause I would show an interest.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:Of course.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker B:But it's just so boring to me.
Speaker B:Like I can't even.
Speaker B:I mean.
Speaker B:Oh my gosh.
Speaker B:That is the one sport actually that my kids never, never did really.
Speaker A:Never.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker B:My oldest tried it when he was like five or six years old and was like, nope, this is too slow for me.
Speaker B:I gotta be right.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker B:My kids are just active like constantly.
Speaker B:There's no really downtime with them.
Speaker B:They've gotta be doing something all the time.
Speaker B:So that sport was not for them.
Speaker A:And it wouldn't be for me either.
Speaker A:My girls, My girls never did softball.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:My baby girl who is.
Speaker A:And I'm not a short female.
Speaker A:I'm five nine.
Speaker A:Well, that's what I say.
Speaker A:But I'm pretty sure I'm close to that.
Speaker A:I'm probably close to five, I think.
Speaker A:So I might have to measure to make sure.
Speaker A:But my Youngest daughter is 5 10.
Speaker A:She surpassed me in height.
Speaker A:So she does volleyball and basketball.
Speaker A:And then my oldest daughter, who is super petite.
Speaker A:She's.
Speaker A:She might be five two, maybe five three.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:She has grown.
Speaker A:We have hit a growth start with her.
Speaker A:So she might be 5 4.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:She's my old.
Speaker A:My youngest still towers over her to where anytime we're in public, they think that the youngest is the oldest.
Speaker A:And it drives my oldest daughter crazy every time.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:But she does competitive cheer, and she also is.
Speaker A:Again, she's going to be going into high school, so she made the high school team, so she'll be cheering for the high school.
Speaker A:So Friday Night Lights, very fun.
Speaker A:Will be our future.
Speaker A:And then competitive cheer pretty much goes year round.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:Traveling a lot, huh?
Speaker A:Traveling a lot, yes.
Speaker A:And so to say busy is.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:I feel like everybody's busy and everybody.
Speaker A:It's like some people want to wear, like, a busy badge.
Speaker A:Like, it's like a medal of honor.
Speaker A:Like, oh, I'm busy, but I'm like, everybody's busy.
Speaker B:Everybody's busy.
Speaker B:Say everybody has their own stuff, especially with kids.
Speaker A:Well, and I feel like.
Speaker A:I don't feel.
Speaker A:I don't remember sports being as competitive.
Speaker B:As they are now.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:And I was talking to another one of my girlfriends about this.
Speaker A:He's got sons who are really involved with basketball and football, and now you can pretty much play a sport all year round.
Speaker A:It's not really by seasons anymore because there's all these clubs and all this stuff.
Speaker A:So it's almost like by the time they're in middle school, they've.
Speaker A:I mean, that's kind of late to learn a sport.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:It kind of makes it hard, but that's just.
Speaker A:That's just part of it, I guess.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker A:So that's our kind of introduction.
Speaker A:So you'll hear a little bit more from Ren and Stacy in another episode.
Speaker A:But as far as the kind of goal of the podcast, like I stated earlier, we're just commanded to teach the younger women.
Speaker A:So we're just going to.
Speaker A:We're going to have a lot of roundtable discussions with the four of us.
Speaker A:We.
Speaker A:Where we talk about different topics.
Speaker A:One of my favorite things about the last time the four of us were together is I had come to Nikki talking about something that my daughter had been asked to do.
Speaker A:She had been asked to go play pickleball with a boy and some friends.
Speaker A:And I was like, oh my gosh, I need to talk to Nikki about this.
Speaker A:So I asked Nikki, I was like, okay, like she's been asked to.
Speaker B:Now keep in mind, I don't have daughters, so that, that is a whole different world for me.
Speaker A:That's true.
Speaker B:So I look at, I look at that from a different perspective.
Speaker A:That, that's true.
Speaker B:You know what I mean?
Speaker B:But if I had a daughter, right?
Speaker B:Oh, you know, like, I can't even imagine, you know what I'm saying?
Speaker B:But then looking at it from a boy standpoint or a son's standpoint, it's like a little bit more nerve wracking.
Speaker A:In a way, because from a boy mom perspective.
Speaker B:Yeah, yeah.
Speaker B:So, yeah, I just want to throw that out there.
Speaker B:That's like, I don't have girls, so like, that could be way different.
Speaker A:Well, you just gave me really good advice and you were like, well, you gave me a new term.
Speaker B:I did, yeah.
Speaker A:You were like, you need to let the apron strings out.
Speaker A:And I was like, I don't know what that means.
Speaker A:What does it mean to let the apron strings out?
Speaker A:Can you explain again, just for our listeners, what that means in case we use that term again?
Speaker B:Oh, goodness.
Speaker B:Okay, so.
Speaker B:So I think in that scenario, you know, as moms, I mean, we're in so much control of our kids lives up into a certain point and then it's like all, it seems like from a mom standpoint, all of a sudden it's like, oh, I'm supposed to go let you do this now, right?
Speaker B:No, no, no.
Speaker B:I've got to know who you're with, where you are, what time.
Speaker B:Like, you've got to know all the things like, where are the parents?
Speaker B:Where is this?
Speaker B:You know, you know, just like, because growing up to a certain point, really, till middle school, I would say, yeah, sixth grade, what is that, 11, 12 years old, 13, like that age group, you know, you know who your kids, friends are, you know, their parents, you know, like, I mean, from church, from sports, from school, like you just know who you're in control of everything in every aspect.
Speaker B:And then all of a sudden that they hit this age and it's like, oh, like I'm supposed to like, you know, let out the rope a little bit.
Speaker B:Right, right.
Speaker B:And that's very terrifying, you know, when you hit that Stage right.
Speaker B:So, like, when I said, gotta let the apron springs out a little bit, it's like, you know, you can think how your kid's gonna react to a certain situation, or you can think, you know, what decisions are they gonna make because you've made them all for them.
Speaker B:Right.
Speaker B:And so, like, let's see.
Speaker B:Let.
Speaker B:Let the apron string out a little bit within boundaries, and then kind of see how she reacts to that or what choices she does make.
Speaker B:And then that can either go good or bad for her.
Speaker B:As far as what she gets to do is kind of was.
Speaker B:Kind of my thing is.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:Because then you want to build trust.
Speaker B:It's like, okay, that's scary because I don't know who these people are, but I'm going to trust you to make.
Speaker B:I'm going to trust my kid to make the right choice.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:I think the thing.
Speaker A:The thing that you said that really stuck out to me the most was you have to give her opportunities to show you that she can be responsible.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker A:And I've.
Speaker B:I had never thought of it that way.
Speaker A:And then you brought up kind of how to sequence this event.
Speaker A:Okay.
Speaker A:If she goes to play pickleball here, you tell her if you leave, if one of the kids says, oh, hey, let's go get so and so, or hey, let's go walk over here to this.
Speaker A:You need to let me know what you're doing.
Speaker A:You don't go anywhere or do anything unless you run it by me first.
Speaker A:You have to be ready to go at this time.
Speaker A:Make sure you call me if anything changes.
Speaker A:And then you said something that really rocked my world.
Speaker A:Oh, gosh.
Speaker A:Is you said, because in two years, she'll be driving.
Speaker B:Oh.
Speaker A:And I was like, oh, that's.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:So you just helped me just put into perspective.
Speaker A:Let's go ahead and set up some of these boundaries now while things are kind of moving and shifting.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:Because when she's driving, you're going to.
Speaker B:Want to know her everywhere abouts and that she made it and that she made it there.
Speaker B:Okay.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker B:That just her safety.
Speaker B:Even though we have, like.
Speaker B:I get it.
Speaker B:Like, we have life360.
Speaker B:We have all of the apps, we have all the trackers.
Speaker B:We approach that differently.
Speaker B:As far as me and my husband, like, we just approached it differently.
Speaker B:We wanted them to let, like, be responsible to letting us know where they were.
Speaker B:And so now seeing kind of the fruit of that, I don't even have to ask them anymore.
Speaker B:They'll be like, hey, I arrived at work, you know, or hey, I'm on my way home.
Speaker B:Blah, blah, blah.
Speaker B:You know what?
Speaker B:And it's kind of gotten to a point now where it's like, kind of like hit or miss.
Speaker B:Like, I backed off.
Speaker B:But when they first started driving.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker B:It's like, let me know when you get there.
Speaker B:Let me know when you get there.
Speaker B:Especially, like, if the weather is rainy, even the least bit of rainy, I'm like, you let me know immediately, you know?
Speaker B:Or if it's late at night, let me know when you're leaving.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:And it's not.
Speaker B:They're.
Speaker B:It's expected.
Speaker B:Like, they know they're supposed to do it.
Speaker B:So.
Speaker A:Because you set.
Speaker A:You already set emotion before they had that responsibility.
Speaker A:Right.
Speaker B:And I'm so glad I did, because now it takes the pressure off of me.
Speaker B:I mean, I'm a worrywart.
Speaker B:Like, I worry about everything, so.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker B:But I just, you know, I get.
Speaker B:I just.
Speaker B:I hit that, but I.
Speaker B:I don't know.
Speaker B:I just.
Speaker B:I feel like some of the groundwork that we did lay.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker B:Helped for this season of life when they did.
Speaker B:Were able to drive out on their own and stuff.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:And that's.
Speaker A:I think the gold in doing something like this with our podcast is you helping me see.
Speaker A:Well, here's what's gonna.
Speaker A:Here's what's coming up.
Speaker A:So, yes.
Speaker A:Go ahead and lay this foundation so you can build upon it for this.
Speaker B:Yeah.
Speaker A:And I would have just.
Speaker A:I mean, my brain has not even been on she's driving in two years.
Speaker A:I mean, I'm just trying to survive the next cheer comp, much less think about that.
Speaker B:Yes.
Speaker A:And so.
Speaker A:And then when we were discussing that with Ren and Stacy, we started talking a little bit more about trust.
Speaker A:And I've always thought more, well, no, I'm not going to trust you because you're a kid, and you have a different perspective of that.
Speaker A:And then Ren had a different perspective, and then Stacy recalled something about how she felt when she was growing up.
Speaker A:And so it was just.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:I don't know.
Speaker A:I just think with the four of us, even though we're in different seasons, if we're talking about something that maybe not everyone can relate to, you can either relate it to maybe how when you were growing up or having friends that have kids in that kind of season, but I just think that's kind of the gold of.
Speaker A:Of having someone that you can go to when you're faced with these different things.
Speaker A:Because they can give you different perspectives.
Speaker A:Yes.
Speaker A:And help you see things a little bit ahead.
Speaker A:Yeah.
Speaker A:And so that's kind of the goal here with the podcast, what we want to accomplish.
Speaker A:And so for our second episode, we will be bringing in the amazing Miss Kathy, and she will dive more into the scripture where we are commanded to do what we're doing.
Speaker A:And I cannot wait for you to hear from her because she is, she is a wealth of knowledge.
Speaker B:Be great.
Speaker A:So that's it for episode one.
Speaker A:Thank you guys for listening.
Speaker B:Thank you.
Speaker A:And that's a wrap on this episode of the Wise her podcast.
Speaker A:If you laughed, cried, or just nodded silently while folding a load of laundry, then our mission is accomplished.
Speaker A:If you have any thoughts, questions for one of us or a parenting story that you might could get a Netflix special out of, please email us@infohewiseherpodcast.com and yes, we will read them.
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Speaker A:A big thanks to our technical advisor, Reid Uberman, sound engineering and editing by Chase Seraney and our music man, Conor Polachek.
Speaker A:Until next time, moms, stay caffeinated, stay prayed up, and stay wise.
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